HAZARD: TOXIC WASTE. If only the toxic relationships in our lives had signs that read that. One of the most detrimental things to maintain a healthy mind is having toxic relationships in your life. Whether we like to admit it or not, it’s something almost everyone has, yet no one really knows what to do about it. It could be a relationship between you and a partner, a family member or a friend. For me it is a friendship. Let’s say this person is constantly rude, dismissive and accusatory for no apparent reason towards almost every sentence that leaves my mouth. Anyone who has had someone in their life knows exactly what I’m talking about. In a friend, a person typically looks for someone who they can laugh with, talk respectfully with and in deep topics about, and someone who will be there for you if need be. A person with a negatively toxic vibe is typically the opposite of this character.
We all wish we could escape it, never see them again or simply unfriend them. But they somehow happen to show up in some aspect of your day. Whether you have a class with them, they’re in your friend group, or maybe you sit lunch with them. At this point, this person’s negativity has made me a less fun person to be around and in turn taken part in dragging me into multiple mentally dark places. Time and time again it becomes a pattern of unfair treatment and false rumor spreading in an attempt to hit me.
The most frustrating part of this is that some people still truly believe she is a good person. In the midst of all of this, I think “what if we tried to cut as many ties as possible? What if we chose to see this person as little as possible?” Working on these skills to approach the situation have positively and immensely affected my mental state. Although it’s scary, sometimes you really must do what you are most afraid of in a relationship to save yourself from further pain. When you see them it’s best to stay tolerable, kind and open minded, yet have a backbone for times you need it- and don’t be afraid to use it when needed.
For all of those people who are reading this out there- I hope you not only have recognized the person or people in your life who are not healthy for you, but you have also realized that you don’t have to tolerate toxic relationships, especially when they’re at the expense of your health and well being.
I’m going to school right now in Germany, and I had to read this article for a class project. I hope everything is better with you now, people can be awful. I hope you’ve found new people that treat you with the respect you need. Have a good day, thanks for letting me read your article.